In the past week, locally, two young boys have lost their lives. One was a 6 year old victim of a disturbed 14 year old, the other a high school senior boy, who took his own life. We always begin with the question, WHY? And yet, we always know there is no logical answer as to why any human would choose to harm another or themselves. We try to rationalize, make up our own stories, push blame on others, or God or the availability of guns in our world. But there is no reason, no good reason anyway.
Why would one young man choose to go on a rampage to take other lives, screaming he hated his life, while another silently takes his own life? There is no logic to that. Were these young men tortured in their daily lives? Were they just having a bad day? We will never truly know the thoughts that brought these tragic endings to two young, inspiring lives.
Please take a moment and offer silence in their memories...
So let us broaden this scope. Our lives are bombarded with tragic stories of anger, hatred, poverty, death and destruction. First off, why did we find the pain and demise of others so entralling and entertaining? We know if we focus on the negative, the negative will engulf us and further create negative thoughts, events, and surroundings. Why do we choose to embrace the negative? What was so horrific for these young men that they felt they could not ask for help, could not see the light and felt that they had no other choices in life? What could anyone had done differently to create a safe place for them? How is it to decide, to turn to violence in order to be released from whatever they are going through? How could you or I make that difference to them, reach out to a tortured soul, create a nurturing, safe place for them to surrender?
Basically, where do each of us hold responsibility for the daily sorrows of another? What do you say or do that may negatively impact a soul who is carrying a huge burden on their heart? Did you or do you take initiative to be kind to others, always? Can you offer a smile to a passing stranger? Wish them a good day? Did you hold the door for the chaotic, stressed mom of 3 who was coming into the grocery store? Did you tell that 4 year old how proud you are that he picked up his toys by himself? Did you thank that young man who took your groceries to the car for you in the pouring rain? Did you hug your child or your mom and just tell her you love her so much and appreciate her being there with you?
Or are you the one who is better than anyone else? Are you too good to wait 5 seconds and hold the door? Do you snap at the cashier for taking too long to check you out? Do you laugh at the boy in that hall who just can not seem to fit in? Do you look down your nose at the girl with the holes in her shoes and dime store jacket? Can you do better in life? Can you be less narcissistic and offer a helping hand to those in need? Can you offer a little sunshine into someone's life?
We truly will never know what sets off the chain of events that lead to violent acts to take lives, effect lives and change the way someone lives forever. How would you carry the burden of knowing you could have made a positive difference in one person's life and you chose not to? How can you start at this very moment to create a safe, loving, nurturing aura around you that will radiate to the world and ripple beyond? One smile, one kind word, one hug, one "I appreciate you," can change someone's day and possibly their life. Who can you reach out to, at this very moment and impact with your love and hope?
There are more questions in this post than answers. Some things will never truly have an answer. But if these questions make you think and spew kind words instead of venomous words, then, I have achieved my goals for this post.
So I leave you this day with a smile, a hug and an "I appreciate you. You are beautiful. You have amazing things to offer this world. And You are valuable and loved!" Take it out to the world and allow your beautiful smile to shine light into someone's heart today.
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
-this version is credited to Mother Teresa